Dining with Lesbians

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Going to a Gay Bar Alone

I don’t usually do this, or more precisely, I’ve never done this before.  But as part of my plan to try new things, I went to a gay bar, alone.  Well, the description of Abrazo was gay AND lesbian, but by 12pm, I was one of the last three female standing.  I’ve been to all the lesbian only places here in Taipei and I’ve been very disappointed by their plastic cups and so, on Friday night, I said to myself: awkward or not, I’m getting a good drink.

I guess it’s pretty universal that lesbians don’t have so many options when it goes to hanging out and Taipei is no exception even with it’s (slightly more) vibrant LGBT scenes.  I wasn’t too sure what I was up for when I stepped into Abrazo but at least the comments said they had good solid cocktails.  And so there I was, trying to chat up the handful of girls that were there who either left after one drink or turned out to be straight (not that I don’t like straight people, I just feel more comfortable with lesbians).

By midnight, I was dancing with a group of gays.  It wasn’t too bad actually.  They were friendly (to a point where they were a little protective of me in their little circle) and didn’t smell of sweat or bad cologne.  There are so many rumors that say lesbians and gays don’t get along which is something I’ve never really understood (I mean, seriously, we’re already a minority).  Well, yes, there are some gay guys I’m not eager to meet all the time but then again it goes the same for some of my straight guy friends.

I’m glad I puckered up the courage to go there and, finally, to have stiff whiskey from actual shot glasses instead of flimsy plastic cups.


7 comments on “Going to a Gay Bar Alone

  1. rebbit7
    July 5, 2015

    It’s great that you’re going out and trying new things. Perhaps by visiting bars more often, you’ll become more comfortable with the gay-bar scene. 🙂


    • nmwords
      July 5, 2015

      That’s very encouraging of you, yes, I think I might since I’m here! Just curious, have you ever tried going to bars populated mainly by gay guys?

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      • rebbit7
        July 5, 2015

        No, I haven’t been to any gay bars before, but perhaps that’s something that I ought to try sometime soon!

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  2. Jenny
    July 6, 2015

    Good for you, going out on your own! I’m pretty sure I would pee my pants in terror going to a gay bar alone…but then I have yet to overcome some social anxiety lol. Sounds like you had a reasonably positive experience though. Plastic cups are the worst!


    • nmwords
      July 6, 2015

      I was really nervous, too, but it turned out to be good fun. And I thought, hey, I won’t do it again if it turns out bad, that’s all!

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Have you seen Chris?
    July 6, 2015

    I’m a late comer and reading a lot since our son came out this spring. I appreciate that even within the LGBT community there are struggles perhaps of separation – it points to humanity! You might Appreciate my thoughts today.


    • nmwords
      July 6, 2015

      It’s so encouraging to know that you’re supporting your son’s coming out, we need more parents like you! Yes, we are only human and complex like any other group in all the annoying ways. But because of this, we really are all the same no matter how we love.

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