Dining with Lesbians

A bowl of personal identity served with blueberry pie

About the Pen

Returning from a talk by Eve Ensler, I cannot sit down and pretend that there is only sunshine and cream on this planet.  If Eve started with nothing but a script, I will start with a blog.  I hope that the words in this blog will form an idea in you, an idea of equality and justice, an idea of hope and empowerment, and above all, an idea that will let you form your own words to become ideas in another bright mind.

It is becoming increasingly difficult to say anything about gender in a simple sentence because gender is as complicated as the universe and needs a bit more space than a nutshell.  I am female in biology (perhaps in genetics, too) and I identify myself with the female gender (strike that, I’ve just learnt about the term gender fluid and that feels most comfortable to me at the moment, maybe I’ll have to re-write this part in a few months).  I have an amazing partner of a good number of years and am perceived as a lesbian. I say perceived because I agree with the theory that sexual orientation is fluid like the batter of a cake and can tilt towards any direction depending on the heat.  So if there were to be a label for my identity, it would be termed with my partner’s name.

Growing up in a Chinese family, my mother and sisters have been wonderful with my partner and my mother had had the insight into my sexual preference before I did.  I now live between Hong Kong and Taiwan with former episodes of stay in Germany and the USA which has given me a hint of how lesbian communities vary from coast to coast.


14 comments on “About the Pen

  1. The Little Butch That Could (TLBTC)
    March 1, 2015

    Thank you for the follow of my blog. I look forward to reading more of your posts. Cheers.


    • nmwords
      March 1, 2015

      Hello, I love your humor and writing! Thanks for following mines, too!

      Liked by 1 person

      • The Little Butch That Could (TLBTC)
        March 3, 2015

        Thank you for the kind words. . . it’s a good boost to my writing ego. 🙂 Cheers.

        Liked by 1 person

  2. rebbit7
    March 6, 2015

    Great blog! As a Taiwanese-American queer woman, I can relate. You just got yourself a follower!


    • nmwords
      March 6, 2015

      Thank you so much for following and it’s a great encouragement to know that someone shares similar experiences!

      Liked by 1 person

  3. thatssojacob
    March 11, 2015

    Hey there! I’m doing a project where I’m following ten exciting, fresh, and interesting bloggers each day for the month of March 2015, and you’re today’s #6! Feel free to come visit me when you can at http://www.thatssojacob.wordpress.com, and follow if you like what you read. Have a good one!


    • nmwords
      March 11, 2015

      Hi! Thanks for including me in your post that’s such a fun idea! Hope you’ll come across lots of great blogs to share!


  4. The Little Butch That Could (TLBTC)
    March 12, 2015

    I nominated you for The Daydreamer Award. If you’d like to view it and accept, check it out here: https://rmiles74.wordpress.com/2015/03/11/the-day-dreamer-award/.


  5. nmwords
    March 12, 2015

    Hey there, thank you so much for your nomination! I’m totally up to the challenge (and the lovely award to go with it!), I have an answer to that challenge already but just need to find time to sit down and write it out.

    Thanks again (and interesting to know your thought about shrimp and football)!


  6. rebbit7
    May 9, 2015

    I’ve nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award! Check it out here: https://thefinickycynicat.wordpress.com/2015/05/08/the-versatile-blogger-award/


    • nmwords
      May 9, 2015

      Hey there, thank you so much for nominating me! Just as I was figuring out what to write next, this would be something good to share, thanks again!

      Liked by 1 person

  7. G.U.M
    August 20, 2015


    Would you happen ti identify as a millennial (1980-2000)?


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